Miss E. Jean: I have an awesome relationship with my 16-year-old daughter. She is very smart, funny, and beautiful. A couple of weeks ago, her boyfriend of a year and a half broke up with her, and she was devastated. So I let her stay in my room—we cuddled, I comforted, we talked. She wanted to sleep in my room, and I allowed it. Then she made what I initially thought was a joke and stated she was moving into my room with me. She hasn’t left!!!! I’ve gently indicated she has to leave, but she just said, “Nope.” How do I get her out without hurting her feelings? Or do I allow her the time she needs to heal? —Mommy Wants Her Own Space
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Mommy, You Magnificent Woman: You have performed your motherly duties most admirably. Let your daughter stay in your room. And you? You move into her room and add the following items:
1. A poster of her favorite band
2. A television
3. A stack of classic movie DVDs
4. A pile of ELLEs
5. A tray of fab drugstore eye shadows
6. A bowl of hot, buttered popcorn
7. A mini fridge full of Häagen-Dazs
If she’s not moved back to her room after 20 minutes, add a kitten.
This letter is from the Ask E. Jean Archive, 1993-2017. Send questions to E. Jean at E.Jean@AskEJean.com.