Dear E. Jean: I’m a guy. My wife and I met when we were in college. Her mother was good-looking and very nice, and as time went on, we developed a close relationship. It eventually led to cuddling. Clothes on, then naked. She never really wore underwear, and I loved it. To sum it up, we did oral a few times and intercourse twice. She taught me things, helped me grow and experience life as most people don’t. Eventually our meetings stopped when she moved to another state, but I couldn’t quit thinking about her.
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After we married, I told my wife everything. She said she pretty much suspected this had been going on, but she was still mad for a while. Then she told me it turns her on to imagine what happened. That got me superexcited, and we’ve been role-playing during sex. Is this normal? Is it okay? I was researching this topic and read your answer where you were angry with the guy for propositioning his mother-in-law. —Good Karma
Karma, You Bounder: You refer, of course, to “Frogman,” the British Royal Marine who snuck behind his wife’s back and pestered his poor mother-in-law for sex so often that I had to forbid him from speaking to any mother-in-law, including Queen Elizabeth II.
And as for you, you abysmal chump, let’s see: The woman who taught you to “experience life as most people don’t” is now out of the picture. The lovely, trusting young wife you betrayed—lied to, cheated on—does she leave you? Does she give you a running kick out the door? Does she even excoriate you for your faithlessness? No! Her amorous romps with you are now twice as exciting! What can I say? You’re one of those irrepressibly lucky people who escape life’s moral muckheaps unscathed. So, naw. I will not be “angry” with you. (Just ignore the silent rebuke in my eyes.)