You know when to walk away from toxic energy at work and can identify the serious frenemy you know you’re better off without, but for whatever reason, it can be really hard to see clearly in matters of love. Sometimes that’s because you’re sick (or scared) of singledom, and other times it’s because the very things that are bad for you make you feel the most alive. It’s this hurts-so-good feeling that drives complicated pop culture heroines to bad decisions, like Letty Raines on TNT’s Good Behavior and her infatuation with the devastatingly handsome hit-man-with-a-heart Javier.
The thing is, spotting indications of his or her worthiness doesn’t have to be ulcer-inducing: All sorts of little tells will reveal what’s really going on. Here, ten signs that your gut is trying to tell you something—namely whether your partner is The One (or the one to run away from).